My last random phone call from Willie
One thing I loved about Willie was he would call me out of the blue to talk to me about nothing, and most of the time it was him talking and me listening, just trying to get a word in edgewise. Sometimes he would call to do a little name-dropping on who had been hanging out with. He called after he hung out with Matt Hasselbeck in the locker room to tell me that he thought he’d played it pretty cool, and that he was sure Matt thought he was pretty awesome. He called to tell me he had just had drinks with Rod Stewart. Right after the WaMu theater opened, he called to tell me about all famous people he was meeting, like Seal, although he was disappointed that Seal didn’t bring Heidi Klum along with him. I, of course, brought him right back down to earth by saying, ‘yeah you got to hang out with Seal, but you also had to go to a Barney (the purple dinosaur) Live! show.’
Sometimes he would call to sing some stupid song that he had just thought of. Sometimes he would call to tell me some random fact that he thought I needed to know. Sometimes he would call just to see what was going on, and find out the latest thing Jayden was doing. Sometimes he would call in the morning on his way to work, and I would give him a bad time about driving into work at 10am, and he would give me a bad time for quitting my well paying job.
The last time Willie called, he was driving home from work. I was trying to finish cooking dinner and entertaining Jayden at the same time, and was feeling a bit frazzled, and I remember thinking, ‘how the heck am i going to get him off the phone?’ Because a phone call with Willie was never short. I am so glad now that I couldn’t get a word in to tell him I’d call him later. I probably would have never had a chance to have this phone call again, and this was one of my favorite kind of calls, the kind where you got to see the quirky side of Willie, the rainbow-colored airstream trailer side of Willie.
He started off by saying, ‘Rach, you’re never going to believe this, but I have been right all along’ (big surprise). He was calling to tell me that he had finally figured out that the guy who sang the songs from the movie “You’ve Got Mail”, that our mom loves, was the same guy who sang the songs from the movie “The Point”. What made him decide after all this time to find out who the guy was? Who knows. But most of the time we couldn’t figure out what was really going on inside that head of his. I said, ‘oh yea, I already knew that, his name is Harry Nilsson’. Willie couldn’t believe that I already knew that, so he decided to throw in another bit of info. He said, ‘Did you know that ‘The Point’ was narrated by Ringo Star?’ Now, that, I did not know. So, he goes off for awhile about Ringo Star and The Point, and we start talking about the songs again. Somewhere in the middle of the conversation, of me trying to cook dinner, of me trying to keep Jayden out of all the cupboards, one of my favorite things happened, Willie and I started singing a stupid song, cracking up the whole time, seeing who could remember the words the best. We started singing “Think About Your Troubles”, the song during the movie when poor Oblio was sitting by the river crying.
Sit beside the breakfast table
Think about your troubles
Pour yourself a cup of tea
Then think about the bubbles
You can take your teardrops
And drop ‘em in a teacup
Take them down to the riverside
And throw them over the side
To be swept up by a current
Then taken to the ocean
To be eaten by some fishes
Who were eaten by some fishes
And swallowed by a whale
Who grew so old
He decomposed, doo, doo, doo
He died and left his body
To the bottom of the ocean
Now everybody knows
That when a body decomposes
The basic elements
Are given back to the ocean
And the sea does what it oughta
And soon there’s salty water
Not too good for drinking
‘Cause it tastes just like a teardrop
So they run it through a filter
And it comes out from a faucet
And it pours into a teapot
Which is just about to bubble
Now think about your troubles, now
I miss these phone calls from Willie. I never knew when they would come or what we would talk about. But I find myself during Jayden’s morning nap or while cooking dinner waiting for the phone to ring, waiting to hear another piece of information that might only be good if I liked playing trival pursuit. I find it really hard to accept that I won’t get another phone call from him, that I am going to have to wait for what seems like forever to sing another song with him, to see who knows the lyrics the best to ‘Ice Ice Baby’, to see who can count to the highest prime number, to listen to him ramble on about his airplanes or his motorcycle or countless other topics I know nothing about, to listen to him tell me what he thinks I should do or what I should buy. What I wouldn’t give for one more “last” random phone call.
I was never honored by one of Willie’s random phone calls. I most definitely would have loved to have been part of one. They sound like a wonderful, light hearted affair. Everyone always talks about how Willie was never quiet, and for the most part it was true, but I guess I was given a rare glimpse into a piece of Willie that not many people got to see. I saw him sit quietly for hours upon hours. He was not sleeping, he was fishing. Like most fishermen I know, my dad, my best friend, and myself don’t talk much in the boat. I don’t know why that is, maybe it is an unwritten rule of fishing, but after everyone has discussed how we will fish, the conversation stops. You rig up, you let out, you sit and watch your pole. That is it. Once a fish hits, total chaos erupts, once the fish is landed, quiet order is resumed. Since the three subjects I know well are; Fishing, Sports, and Chemistry, I doubt Willie wanted to start a conversation anyway. He did not know anything about any of the three and he never talked about anything he did not know. What Willie did in his quiet time in the boat however was listen, learn, and impress me. He intently watched how we all went about our routines, trying to copy everything he thought was important. When he had a question he would ask, when he needed guidance he would ask, but he never did it disruptingly or with bad form. He did it with grace and ease, like it was effortless for him to learn. I will miss taking Willie fishing, it is hard to find people who can understand a situation upon their arrival into it. He did this well.
i know it isn’t close to the same and i am ok with that but if you want someone to call and sing songs with you, i would volunteer. really loved your post. i wish i had known him better but i am glad i am getting to know you and Royal better. will we see you this weekend?
Oh my gosh!That was one of the same “last” conversations I had with him too. He thought he was so cool for figuring out that bit of info. I told him I already knew that and he didn’t believe me at all. I said, “I knew it was the same artist the minute the music started playing during “you’ve got mail” when I saw it in the theater. He totally didn’t believe me. So then he proceeds to tell me about Ringo Starr. In my head I was thinking, “That wasn’t Ringo Star, that was Allan Thicke.” I didn’t say anything because I hated arguing with him and I really just enjoyed letting him be right and I figured, “what did I know”? I mean really, probably he was right and I was wrong. BUT, I just researched it!! And guess what? I’M RIGHT!!! :) Actually the origianl narrator was Harry Nilsson himself. The home video release was narrated by Ringo Star (which we didn’t have). It was once narrated by Dustin Hoffman and Alan Thicke narrated a version that was shown on the Disney Channel (which we recorded and watched for the next 20 years!!!) Can you believe that? I also found out that Harry Nilsson was on acid when he was looking at the trees and realized that they all had points, and the little branches all came to points and all the houses came to points and he realized “Oh! Everything has a point. And if it doens’t, then there’s a point to it.” Isn’t that messed up??? So much of that movie makes sense now!! :) Man, I wish I could tell Willie that!
Thank you for sharing a piece of Willie with me. I didn’t know Willie very well, but as I learn about him from each of you, I know I would have enjoyed knowing him better. Listening to him would have been fun.
Thank you for enfolding us into your family and your pain. We are blessed to be a part of your family.
Linda - Martha for short :)
Rachel,
Thanks for sharing with us such an awesome memory you have of Willie. I’m sure you’ll cherish that and many other memories you have of Willie forever. I pray that your memories of him will remain that vivid and that they remain clear as glass. I know that you and Kaylee have little boys to share them with and that you will talk about him amongst your friends and family for years to come. I myself don’t remember much about Willie except a few memories of us kids fighting over the yellow moped at the old Arcadia house and I can remember him coming over a couple of times to see the horses Kaylee and I boarded from camp one summer. Then I remember seeing him some years later and I was a little surprised at how handsome he had become, but I was not at all surprised that he still had that fun loving spirit. He also had a great smile and some pretty stunning blue eyes that seem to have been passed onto your little one. Take care of yourself, it looks like you and Royal are in for a fun summer with that little pool of Jayden’s. Hope you have a blast with him!! Erin